No my autistic son is not a burden,
But that does not mean he is OK either.
I recently read an article that touted how a person’s autistic children were not a burden, and how people who talked about the downsides of their children’s autism were not doing their children any favours. It also talked about accepting autistic children as they are, and helping the world accommodate them.
There is a missing side to this argument though and it has been a common one for a very long time. There are many different sides to autism, and while some kids who are termed autistic can function fairly close to normal, and have some minor difficulties, can grow up to be married have kids and with some accommodation’s lead a fairly stereotypical life. The problem is that these are not the only groups of autistic children. There is another group of autistic children who will never speak, or at best have limited speech. They will never be able to live on their own, many of them will need full time monitoring. A job may be possible under limited circumstances, but it will require one person to monitor while the autistic person works etc.
See not all versions of autism are quiet, sweet, and hunky dory.
I actually love my son, and while he is not the easiest to deal with all the time, I would not trade him for the world.
I am also not going to sugar coat it. My son is one of those who will never live on their own. His chances of getting married are very low. Kids unlikely etc. This is not a sympathy trip. This is not to get attention. This is my son’s reality and painting sweet pictures will not change that reality.
The hugest problem is that the people who slam those of us trying to help our kids achieve the best possible outcome, are doing nothing but harm. What may be best for your child, is not likely what is best for my child. And, while per